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Brooke Hunter’s Interview with Deborah Graham

Posted on Jan 22, 2013 in Uncategorized

Interview with Deborah Graham Question: Why did you decide to write Dance Me Beautiful? Deborah Graham: I wrote Dance Me Beautiful because I had to. I was dancing for my life and needed to write for my life as well. In many respects, I had stopped living after my divorce. I was going through the motions of life but I had disengaged from life and from myself. I began to ballroom dance and the cells in my body started to come alive, but every time I felt an awakening something in me shut down. The voice in my head told me I didn’t deserve...

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Sneak Peek: Introduction

Posted on Jan 14, 2013 in Uncategorized

Prior to my divorce at age 33, I was living what I thought was an uncomplicated and fortunate life. I grew up with my Mom, Dad and brother in a nice house in a nice neighbourhood. I was a straight-A student who never got into any trouble. I graduated from law school and articled at one of the top firms on Bay Street. I married my high school sweetheart and we bought a lovely house in a small Ontario town. We had a dog and planned to have children. I had my own family law practice on the main street of town. All was as I had hoped and imagined...

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Who is Dance Me Beautiful for?

Posted on Dec 4, 2012 in Book Updates, Life Lessons from Dance

I was asked last week, who Dance Me Beautiful is for. I think Dance Me Beautiful is for anyone who yearns for ‘something more.’ I always assume that Dance Me Beautiful is a ‘women’s book’ and yet I am continually surprised when a man challenges me on that saying that he could very much relate to the story, the struggle and the triumph. On Dancing With The Stars this season, Kelly Monaco said, ‘this show has nothing to do with dance.’ And I think she’s right. Dancing with the Stars and Dance Me Beautiful are not about dance;...

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Deborah Speaks at Prosperity Ball

Posted on Dec 2, 2012 in Book Updates

5th Annual Prosperity Ball “New Beginnings hosted their 5th Annual Prosperity Ball at the King Edward Meridian Hotel with the theme of “Moonlight Masquerade” where guests could remain incognito or not. Just the same, masked revelers and unmasked guests all enjoyed a reception with signature cocktails, entertainment by the UCC Jazz Quintet, a ballroom dance performance and later a special appearance by Jully Black. The Prosperity Ball is a celebration that brings together our community and business leaders in support of the...

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Why I Wrote Dance Me Beautiful

Posted on Nov 29, 2012 in Book Updates, Life Lessons from Dance

Several people have asked me lately why I wrote Dance Me Beautiful. I wrote Dance Me Beautiful because I had to. I was dancing for my life and needed to write for my life as well. In many respects, I had stopped living after my divorce. I was going through the motions of life but I had disengaged from life and from myself. I began to ballroom dance and the cells in my body started to come alive, but every time I felt an awakening something in me shut down. The voice in my head told me I didn’t deserve a second chance; I had used mine up; I...

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Moments in Dance; Memories in Life

Posted on Nov 4, 2012 in Life Lessons from Dance

“You missed a moment,” my dance instructor said. “It is important to explore and savour each moment even if it means you get a bit behind the music for a second – you can always catch up in the next steps.” Ahh, the dance version of stop and smell the roses! Changes of direction seem to be particularly natural opportunities to create a moment. “Stretch, smile and connect. Create a moment and then let it go and move on,” he explained. Some movement then stillness then movement again. Although even in the stillness there is...

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A Canadian Thanksgiving Thank You

Posted on Oct 7, 2012 in Life Lessons from Dance

A Canadian Thanksgiving thank you to the dance teachers of the world – they are our guides to our whole selves. A friend described Dance Me Beautiful as my journey to ‘living full out.’ I like that expression. It’s what dance helps us do – show up with our whole selves – the vulnerability, the strength, the sexiness, the womanliness, the playfulness, the intensity, the romance, the beauty. In speaking to other dance students, I notice a common theme of immense gratitude for our teachers. They are our guides to our deepest and...

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Technique and the Soul

Posted on Sep 16, 2012 in Life Lessons from Dance

“The technique allows your soul to express itself,” Katia says as she re-positions my right toe, my head, my right elbow and my left hand. So true, I think to myself. When we watch talented dancers or listen to gifted singers, they take us on a soul’s journey and we are lifted along with the dance or the music. That is what makes me want to dance. My soul expresses itself through words and as I play with the words and re-arrange the sentences, the art emerges and I feel transformed and satisfied. I write because I need to. I...

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On the Bit

Posted on Jul 19, 2012 in Life Lessons from Dance

The moments of being fully engaged in a sport are what keep us coming back. I remember that moment in every ride where my horse had warmed up and went ‘on the bit.’ Being on the bit starts from the ground up. First my horse must engage his hocks enough to push off the ground and create spring in his step. He must reach underneath himself with his back legs and track into or past the tracks of his front hooves. He must soften his belly and start to lift his spine and finally he must round his neck with his poll (the space between his ears)...

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Fear, Breathing, Parenting & Roller Coasters

Posted on Jul 7, 2012 in Life Lessons from Dance

Fear has been showing up in my life in many forms lately. My son is terrified of bees and the bees are plentiful and low flying this summer. His fear is keeping us indoors. I am facing some of my own fears as I put myself out there on Facebook, Twitter and through blogging as I get ready for the launch of my first book. I am dealing with fear as I create a plan for keynote speaking engagements. I am facing some of my other fears as I hit another level of commitment and engagement in learning to ballroom dance. I am working with my son on some...

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